Its NOT Okay to Not be Okay
I’m so glad that mental health has become a much more openly discussed topic.
But I find it so freaking sad how much shameful feelings surround the whole idea of it, still, for so many people.
Having something wrong with your mental well-being, or ‘issues’/disorders isn’t uncommon at all. But, that doesn’t mean that it’s okay.
“It’s okay to not be okay”—I hate that saying & the message it promotes.
If you’re not okay, it’s not okay.
Why would you want to just accept that it’s okay to feel any sense of negative emotions consistently when there’s tons of different options & strategies to find clarity & get better.
If you’re struggling internally with anxiety, depression, an eating disorder, bipolar behaviors, just feeling sad & shitty all the time, WHATEVER—don’t settle for that!
There’s so much beauty, happiness, & joy in life and we should always be seeking it out, not just ‘accepting’ that we’re not okay.
That’s no way to live…at least not to live life to the fullest.
If you’re reading this, you most likely know that I struggled with an eating disorder for almost 6 years (because of me speaking about it publicly a couple months ago, or because if you follow me on Insta/social media and look back at some of my old pictures, it was obvious AF…wasn’t to me at the time, but hellooo body dysmorphia. And if this is your first time coming across me & my blog, well, now ya know.
Either way, I didn’t think anything was mentally wrong with what I was doing to myself for the longest time, but when it finally clicked (after too many scenarios with my hubs that left me feeling so irritated, yet so bad for how I was hurting him with what I was putting myself through, & months of therapy), when I realized how not okay I was, I wasn’t okay with it.
& let me tell you what, had I been okay with not being okay, I’m almost certain that I wouldn’t be here today to write this.
Ignoring mental issues & problems only allows them to fester & grow into bigger, HARDER things to handle later down the road. So if you’re struggling with anything that has you feeling less than okay, please take my advice and nip it in the butt before it gets worse.
Don’t feel dumb or the guilt from thinking ‘others have it way worse’.
It doesn’t matter how big or small whatever you’re going through seems to anyone. If you’re negatively affected by it, THAT’S WHAT MATTERS.
Take the first step towards getting better by talking to someone you can trust. Someone you know or a therapist. That was the first step I made in the right direction & I can’t express how FREEING it is to be an open book & let the word vomit spill out everywhere.
But remember that that’s just the first step. After you acknowledge that you’re not okay and know that it’s NOT OKAY to feel like that & you've talked to someone open & honestly, then you have to dig deep, do some research, talk to others that have gone through similar struggles, etc. & try out different strategies and tactics to find what’s going to work for you to get better.
Once you find the things that seem to be working for you, do them EVERY.DAY & little by little, you’ll get better.
& if you hit a bump in the road along the journey, don’t beat yourself up over it and give up. Brush it off and keep on trekkin' because little bumps & slip-ups are inevitable.
We’re only human, so embrace the imperfections and keep pushing for more, because life is full of way too much GOOD to accept anything less.